It’s been a long time since I contributed an article to JustOneOpinion.com and I realized how much I missed it. So I asked my webmaster to publish this article on that site and also here. I hope to do more articles in the future, but I’ve been busy writing a sequel to Farewell My Beijing that I hope to have published sometime this summer. The title of the new book will be My China, My World.

I’ve also been busy with my other activities. I love to bake, and like to try out a new recipe at least once a week (I just removed 40 mini pecan tarts from the oven). I also play tennis and duplicate bridge.

Three things happened to me within the past few months that were both scary and delightful. I want to share them with you.

On Saturday, March 31st, I went to visit an open house in our neighborhood. The floor of the foyer was white tile that continued into the living room. There was a small step that I did not see and I fell face first. When my head hit the living room floor it sounded like a rock thrown on the tile. The right side of my head near my eye immediately swelled up like a balloon, and I had bruises all the way down to my foot. I was positive I had broken every bone in my body and had suffered a concussion, a broken neck and back, and would never be the same healthy person again.

I was in the emergency room for five hours and endured four X-rays and a CAT Scan. Those were the longest four hours in my whole life. Finally, the doctor came and told me that nothing serious happened and he thought it was a miracle. Poor Dick had to take over the household chores and cooking (which he knows nothing about ) because I was so bruised and shaken. I was ordered to get an MRI on my foot because it was badly swollen and bruised. The MRI showed a fracture and a torn tendon.

The next day I remembered Costco had invited me to do a book signing for my memoir “Farewell My Beijing” on Saturday, April 7th. My family, my friends, and even the General Manager of Costco advised me to reschedule it for a few weeks later, but I refused. Costco had been advertising it for two weeks, and the store had placed a huge poster of me  at the front entrance. I decided I was not going to let them down.

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Chinese people believe that in order to have a balanced life one must have opposites. You need your ups and downs, happiness and sorrow, highs and lows, black and white, male and female, and of course health and sickness, etc.

The symbol for the Yin Yang is a perfect circle, divided by black and white.

In life you have your good and your bad days. If you believe in the Yin Yang, you would know that happiness is the opposite of sadness, and you could not feel one if you did not feel the other. If you really believe in this, then during your down time, you would not drown your sadness by doing things that would harm you, like taking drugs, drinking too much, smoking cigarettes, hurting others. All this is counter productive, it would only make you feel worse. You need to say to yourself, “This is my down and sad period, I must take advantage of this time to read a good book, volunteer, learn something new, help around the house, play a musical instrument, be considerate of others. If you practice this philosophy, you won’t mind your low periods, because you know that only after your low, can you have your high. If you were always high, you would not appreciate it, because you would not know any better. When you are feeling good again you can relish all the things you have accomplished.

The Yin Yang symbol is a perfect circle of black and white. If there were no black there would be no white, if there were no ups, there would be no downs. The circle represents balance; there are no sharp edges for you to fall off. If you follow this philosophy, you will be able to cope even during the worst of times.

Example: I have a friend who phoned to tell me that he had just been told that he had a very serious illness. He was feeling very low and curled up in bed thinking negative thoughts. So I asked him, what was his greatest regret? He answered, “I feel so bad because I have not talked to my father for nearly twelve years.” I told him that I would hang up the phone so that he could call his father immediately. I told him not to be concerned about who was right and who was wrong. Just call up and say, “Let’s get together”.

About an hour later, he called back to tell me that his father would soon be arriving for a visit. My friend’s health is better now and he is grateful that during his low period he had the courage to call his father and make things right.

In Chinese cooking, we also practice the Yin Yang philosophy. In each dish we always think of balance: color, texture, dark and light, soft and crisp, sweet and sour.

Balance in one’s life will help greatly to make a person happy and well adjusted.

After my husband finished his tour in Vietnam, we decided to pass by Kyoto, Japan, to visit EXPO 70. There was a Yin Yang booth, and of course I had to visit it. There were so many interesting things to see and learn, but the one I liked the most was the sculpture of two hands, one black and one white, by a Japanese artist whose name was Yamamoto. They were big enough to sit on. Dick took one of me sitting in one of them. It is my all time favorite photo.